ADHD

I also deal with a son who has been diagnosed ADHD. We do not medicate him, instead we use behavior modification. This method has worked over the year very well for us. Let me say I have nothing against medicine...but if it is only being used to "calm" the child down I don't like it. A lot of our schools, even though it is against the law for them to even suggest it, really push meds onto the "disruptive" kids. The parents I know, who have had THE meeting, say they really feel pressured to administer meds to their kids; that they feel ganged-up on. I know a teacher who once told me "if your child had diabetes wouldn't you put him on meds? Your child has ADHD the same should apply- he should be on meds". I really took offense to that comment and totally didn't (and don't) agree with that at all. For one, diabetes is a medical condition you can die from and, as far as I know, ADHD has never killed anyone. A child who has ADHD could die due to some of the symptoms (i.e. impulse control resulting in death, depression resulting in suicide, etc) but the actual diagnosis has not, as far as I know, ever killed a child. And while I really liked this teacher, I would NEVER have allowed her to teach my ADHD son, since it was obvious to me that she already had made up her mind and would not be receptive to behavior modification. That said, putting your child on meds is your choose, not mine. I choose not to...


I really did lots of research on ADHD before my son started school. For him, the problems started in preschool. He was unable to control his impulses and was being threatened to be kicked out of preschool! I was shocked!! The child was 4 yrs old!! Having been a preschool teacher I understood the reasons as to why they would think about dismissing him but also due to that same experience I knew that there was an underlying problem to the situation. Come to find out that he wasn't the only child misbehaving and the underlying problem was that there wasn't enough stimulation being offered to the children. The talks at circle time were much too boring to the children. There were no manipulative, pictures, etc. There was not a constant adult in the room. Needless to say this was my first battle in our journey of ADHD. I fought to make the school changes some of the things they did or didn't do. These changes really helped the class as a whole. He did not get expelled and from the preschool on an upbeat note.

I plan to continue writing about this journey so stay toned...



"Why Gender Matters" by Dr Leonard Sax is a good book to read, particularly if you have boys or tom-girls, or if you have a child labeled as ADHD. If you live near me I know that the Samuels Library has a copy of this book. Dr Sax also has a new book out "Boys Adrift". This is also an interesting book to read.