Wednesday, June 5, 2013

(Missing blog #2) Soccer, Broken Collar bone, and spiteful comments


As I was looking at my blog this morning I realized that for some reason some of my posts have either not been published or have been deleted. I am not sure which- either way they aren’t even showing up for me. So here is a summary of some of the posts that are mysteriously missing.

My son broke his collar bone…while playing in a park and rec soccer game. Really we were due for an injury. He has played sports for 10 years and has never had anything more than a sprained ankle or wrist. Plus we haven’t had any ER visits the past year or two…so yeah we were due one. LOL
This is what a broken collarbone looks like:

 
Anyways it was an accident, caused by the way he fell on his shoulder. No big deal. I figure if it was going to happen it would happen- whether it was at rec soccer, school, etc. It didn’t require surgery (Thank God). He got out of school for over a week- which he liked. And he was on light duty for 6 weeks. He was frustrated that they wouldn’t let him play soccer after about the first 2-3 weeks because he felt fine and had even started practicing again (without his doctor’s knowledge).

His coach was not happy. He blamed my son’s injury on the refs’ lack of calling fouls. The game had been getting rougher and rougher- with kids out-right shoving each other and not getting called. Coach says there was a foul right before the injury, that if it had been called my son would never have broken his collar bone. He was also upset that the center ref didn’t immediately pause the game- or even notice that K was injured until our coach started yelling at him. I agree that the game was getting very rough.

Fast forward to the next week. We weren’t at the game. We had planned to be there, even though he couldn’t play, but we had over-slept. Coach confronted one of the board members about the reffing the week before. She replied that my son was an “out of control player” and the injury was his own fault!! Seriously?? This from a woman whose own son has been red carded and thrown out of games?? My son has only ever received a yellow card about 3 times (one of which was the game before he got injured). Plus her husband obviously doesn’t feel the same way since he picked my son to play on his JV team! I was ticked!!

 During this game 2 teammates received injuries. Again there was a delay in the calling and no fouls. Coach yelled (from all accounts he did not cuss, etc just a very loud in-your-face kind of yelling.) at the ref again for not making calls and for injuring his players. He was kicked out of the game and suspended for a week. The game had to be forfeited as we didn’t have an assistant coach.
The next week they postponed the games due to a lack of senior refs. (Because they had had so many injuries that they needed an adult ref at all this age division's games and none were available)

So once I learned the response of the board member (later that 2nd week) we decided that since she couldn’t keep her mouth shut the soccer association was going to pay for his medical bills. We hadn't been worried about it. Our insurance had covered most of the cost. But when our insurance sends us a letter asking if the injury was from an accident (as they do with most ER visits) I will be telling them who to send that bill too (i.e. the soccer association). And the soccer association will be repaying me for my co-pays- we are out about $170 as of right now. I am still waiting for resolution of the ambulance bill….which I didn’t even know they charged! We received that in the mail about 3 weeks after his injury. It was for about $500! They didn’t do anything other than drive him to the ER because the soccer medic had already stabilized his arm!

Yes that is vengeful but I am tired of the snide “I’m better than you” comments from this particular board member. This is the 2nd time in a year that we have had issues with her. She is one of the reasons that I won’t join the board- even though I have been asked repeatedly. She has been on the board for at least 7-8 year…she may have actually been on there when K first joined 10 years ago! It is time for her to go!! I feel if the board wants to keep her then they can pay for her comments. Spiteful- yes. But so satisfying. :-)

 

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